Everyone loves getting a massage. It relaxes the body, stimulates blood flow, and is the perfect way to connect physically and emotionally with your partner. For many of us, being touched by a lover is both comforting and arousing, so why not incorporate an erotic massage into your foreplay?
Fantastic as a sexy gift to indulge your partner, massage oils and candles bring with them the promise of quality time and an abundance of attention.
Essential Equipment
There are a variety of oils available, so when you’re choosing oils you will need to take into account the effect you would like to have, the fragrance, and any related safety issues.
Essential oils are organic compounds derived from plant sources such as root, bark, and flowers. They are complex chemical compounds that can be massaged into the skin, used in baths and foot baths, and inhaled. These can be purchased in holistic shops and online. Always buy from a reputable supplier as cheaper oils are often synthetic or adulterated with lower quality oils.
Some essential oils are not recommended for people suffering from certain conditions including pregnancy, epilepsy, and high and low blood pressure. Refer to labels and safety information before purchasing. As a result, essential oils should not be ingested. If you plan on incorporating licking and nibbling into your foreplay session, opt for edible massage oils.
Edible massage oils contain a blend of pure plant oils such as sunflower oil, sweet almond oil, coconut oil, and apricot kernel oil, making them kissable, lickable, edible massage oils. These sensuous oils are often a little thicker than essential oils, but can still be drizzled over your partner for a deeply moisturising and seductive massage, and do not leave a sticky residue. They come in a variety of delicious flavours from Chocolate Mouse (€17.22, kinky.ie) to Vanilla Buttercream (€17.22, kinky.ie) to Strawberry (€17.22, kinky.ie) – so there’s something for everyone!
Massage candles are a blend of all-natural waxes and oils that have been specifically formulated to melt at a low, body-safe temperature. Once liquified, the candle will transform into a slow absorbing massage lotion that nourishes and hydrates the skin. Many are also lickable – ideal for steamy foreplay sessions! Before dripping the oil over your partner, make sure to blow the flame out and test the temperature of the pool of oil with your finger.
Massage oils and candles should not be used as a personal lubricant or with condoms. For a massage lotion that can be used as a lube and is condom-safe, you can use Durex Play 2 in 1 Massage Lubricant (€10.90, kinky.ie), which is soft, smooth, and gentle enough to be used all over the body as well as intimate areas.
How to Give an Erotic Massage
Start by setting the mood. No one wants to get an erotic massage next to a pile of dirty laundry or with Kanye West blasting in the background. Think sensual and make the room fit that idea. Harsh lighting can be an uncomfortable distraction, so bring in a little bit of romance with some fairy lights or candles.
Drizzle or drip the sensuous oil directly onto your partner’s body, or into the palm of your hand and start your massage. The first few touches should be long, lingering, and purposeful – use this time to apply the oil to the whole area and get their skin warmed up. You want this to be erotic, so build things up slowly, intensifying as you get to the good stuff. Keep your hands flat and your fingers relaxed so that they follow the natural contours of your partner’s body. Go slow, and enjoy the way their skin feels.
Don’t be afraid to play with different pressures and techniques; intense and deep massages will work out tension in the muscles, while gently running your fingers through their hair or across their neck will have them quivering with anticipation. Have some fun – keep things slow and deliberate. Drawing it out longer will increase the pleasure for both of you.