Female ejaculation, or squirting, is everywhere in porn. Although pornography featuring female ejaculation has been banned in the UK, it is the third most searched for category in Australia and remains a point of curiosity. But is it a reality?
Yes, it is a real thing. In fact, research suggests that around a third of women have experienced ‘female ejaculation’ during a sexual climax. However, it is not possible for everyone – it is believed that around 10-40% of women ejaculate recurrently.
What is ‘Squirting’?
Firstly, female ejaculation and orgasm are not the same thing. An ejaculation is the release of fluids, rather than the contracting of muscles and releasing of endorphins that accompany orgasms. Originating in the Skene’s gland, the fluid is drained through the urethra and is expelled at the point of ejaculation. The Skene’s gland can only be stimulated through the G-spot, as it is situated directly above.
If it comes from the urethra, is it urine? Yes, and no. A recent French study recruited seven women who self-reported that they squirted the equivalent to a glass of water during orgasm. Biochemical analysis of the fluid showed that two of the women were squirting urine. However, for the other five, the analysis showed that the fluid was mainly made up of urine but it also contained prostate-specific androgen (PSA) originating from the Skene’s glands. The study concluded that female ejaculation is likely to be an involuntary urine emission and that the presence of PSA is simply the residue of ‘true’ female ejaculation.
When it comes to squirting, some say they squirt out a teaspoon, others say a cupful, and some claim they squirt even more than that. Some women can squirt over and over, and some just squirt the once – it’s all normal!
Getting Started
For some women, it is possible, but for others, it’s not. Our bodies all function differently, and while scientists still don’t know the ins and outs of female ejaculation, we do know that when it comes to sexuality, there is not a lot of predictability and science to back it up. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try, so what are you waiting for?
1. Relaxation is a key aspect of squirting orgasms, so ensure you stay calm as you prepare. Create a chilled environment; dim the lights, light candles, and play some music. Make sure to empty your bladder before you get started so that you are comfortable to let go when the time comes.
2. Foreplay is vital. Remember; the G-spot won’t even be enlarged or ready for stimulation if you’re not fully aroused. So, take your time getting in the mood. Fixate on your partner or favourite fantasy, grab a clitoral vibrator like Loving Joy Mitzi Clitoral Vibrator (€22.96, kinky.ie) and have some fun.
3. Once you’re suitably aroused, it is time to lube up. The stimulation required for squirting is hard and fast, so a bit of lube on your finger or toy will prevent friction and ensure you get the most from the experience.
4. G-spot dildos and vibrators are generally best for this sort of stimulation. They are curved and less flexible than other vibrators, which work well due to the Skene’s glands’ love of firm pressure.
5. Feeling the need to pee? You’re almost there! Instead of holding it in or clenching, relax and push outwards instead. It can take some time and a few goes to get it right, so don’t be disheartened if nothing happens on your first go.
The Toys to Take You There
Need a helping hand? A toy that stimulates the G-spot and clitoris simultaneously will make for greater intensity. Be sure you choose a toy that is made from high-quality, body-safe materials. Jelly and rubber vibrators should generally be avoided as they can be difficult to clean effectively. Instead, opt for toys that are made of silicone or plastic.
Lucid Dreams No. 14 (€28.70, kinky.ie) is a sexy multi-speed vibrator that offers the firm G-Spot stimulation that most women need to squirt. Start by rocking it gently against your sweet spot, then power up the pleasure, starting its multiple vibration patterns for unparalleled sensation.
Arousal comes easy with an erotic rabbit! The Neo Rabbit Vibe (€51.67, kinky.ie) was designed to send dizzying vibrations to your G-Spot for toe-curling sensations. Start by using the bunny ears on your clitoris to get you warmed up for the main event and you’ll be squirting in no time!
Looking for something a little special? The Glass Worxx G-Spot Gemstone (€20.66, kinky.ie) is a unique hand sculpted dildo made of highly resistant non-porous glass. The tilted tip teases those hard to reach places while the gemstones on the shaft deliver waves of intense pleasure. Ice it down or heat it up for an amazing addition to penetrative play!