Strap ons can seem intimidating at first, but they’re one of the most versatile sex toys out there and can really spice things up! If you have already began exploring anal play, why not invite your partner to help you explore every inch of your body?
The prostate gland is a walnut sized, semen-storing gland located at the root of the penis. The P-spot, also sometimes known as the male G-spot, is the area of the prostate that can be felt and stimulated. As its directly linked to the penis and testicles, stimulating the prostrate will directly affect the rest of his genitals and result in some explosive orgasms.
Not convinced? Here’s a few more reasons to give pegging a go:
1) Discover new sensations! Plus, it frees up hands so you can stimulate multiple areas at the same time.
2) It’s a kinky BDSM addition; allowing someone to penetrate them in this way is a form of submission, and handing over control signals a whole new level of intimacy a trust.
3) It will really hit the ‘spot’; strap ons are contoured to hit the right spot, so prepare yourself for a series of intense, orgasmic, and sexy sessions. You’re in for a treat!
Safety and Hygiene
It goes without saying that hygiene is important. It is important to shower and clean out the anus beforehand. Through washing beforehand, it reduces the risk that germs will spread, it limits unpleasant smells and tastes, and it helps allay any fears about hygiene and cleanliness. If you’re looking for a thorough clean try a douche like Whirling Spray Douche (€18.36, kinky.ie).
This may sound obvious, but make sure you clean your anal toys thoroughly after every use. This is even more important if you share your toys with your partner. Hot soapy water will do the trick. Alternatively, opt for a Toy Cleaner (€6.88, kinky.ie) that will leave your toy looking as good as new!
Choosing a strap on
A strap on simply refers to the harness, and nothing else. These come in four different options for you to choose from. Choose something you both like and that fits your needs. First time strap on users should look for harnesses that have cushioned or padded straps for added comfort.
1) The most popular is the two-strap harness. This harness allows the wearer to simply step into the straps and pull them up around the waist. The Fetish Fantasy First Timers Strap-On Set (€40.19, kinky.ie) is great for first-time peggers as the jock-style straps sit securely on the body, allowing for a greater, more controlled thrust.
2) Similarly, there’s a thong option. Some women prefer to wear these, but due to the shape it makes entering the back side a little trickier. We recommend the Fetish Fantasy Beginners Penetrix Strap-On (€40.19, kinky.ie), which comes with a small, tapered dildo that is perfectly shaped for locating and stimulating the prostate.
3) Then, there’s the full coverage option. These are modelled after, and worn like underwear. This is perfect for beginners as they provide a lot of stability for thrusting. The Fetish Fantasy Sensual Comfort Strap-On Dildo (€57.41, kinky.ie) has a comfy elastic waist that stretches to fit most sizes, which the soft foam harness provides additional comfort.
4) For those who want to take it up a notch; the double penetration strap on gives the wearer some of the fun too. We recommend the Fetish Fantasy Strapless Strap-On with Anal Stimulator (€63.16, kinky.ie) – this strapless double dildo features plugs that deliver anal and g-spot stimulation for the wearer, while the long, ribbed shaft delivers incredible sensations for your partner. This strapless dildo stays inside the wearer with each passionate thrust.
The first time
Start with a little anal foreplay, exploring the area with lubricated fingers and maybe a small butt plug. Stroke, tease, massage and tickle the anus, making sure you’re both relaxed and warmed up.
Make sure that you apply a generous amount of lube to the head and shaft of the strap on before entering. Steady the dildo with one hand and keeping a grip on the shaft of the toy, guide the head of the dildo in gently. Once the head of the dildo enters about an inch or two, pause and let your partner get used to the feeling.
When they are ready to take a little more, you can try thrusting gently. If your partner can take it, try playing with the speed and force. Pay attention to their reactions, movements, and the sounds they make. Take your cues from the intensity of their moans and groans and their reactions to your thrusting.