Nervous About Sex With New Guy

I've been single for ages but recently I met a guy I really like and things have been going great. I really want to start sleeping with him and I can tell he wants this too, but I feel incredibly body conscious as I've put on a bit of weight since I last had sex and gone up a dress size. I think I'd feel better if I wasn't completely on show. Is there a sex position we could try that would flatter my body so everything isn't on display? N in Newbridge

The missionary is as flattering as it gets - In this position, the bed will absorb the bulk of your weight and you'll be pinned to the bed, so nothing will wobble, plus with your partner directly on top he can't even see most of your body. However I think you should establish how your boyfriend feels about your body before you start hatching plots to hide its curves. Not every guy is into stick insects you know! I would try to get over your lack of positive body conciousness as you'll have better sex once you do. Why not unveil your lush body to your new man one manageable step at a time? Start by giving him access to the parts you feel most comfortable with - For example, if you've got fabulous breasts, let him unhook your bra. Then, once you're sure that he's satisfied with what he's seen and felt, whip off your top altogether etc - This may be a good way to start getting down to it! Good luck!

Working Out for Making Out

A bloke down the pub told me going to the gym regularly is the best thing you can do for your sex life. What's he on about?
F in Bray

Did you ask him which gym? Maybe he knows of one where lots of sexy people go! However, he may also have meant that working out will make you more energetic and fit and increase your body-confidence, which is a good recipe for having great sex!

Sexathon

I want to have a sexathon with my girlfriend. Have you got any suggestions on to keep us going all day?
G in Dublin

You lucky pair! Stock up with lots of drinks and snacks, as you'll need refreshment breaks. The rest is up to you and your partner and what you both enjoy! I sometimes spend a whole day watching erotic DVDs with my partner, pausing them again and again, so we can get down to some action of our own!

Boob Job or Not?

My girlfriend is talking about possibly getting a boob job. I hate fake boobs. What should I do?
M in Kildare

Tell her! You are not alone. Many people prefer real over surgically enhanced. Let your girlfriend know how much you love her real boobs exactly as they are. You may well find your girlfriend simply needs some more reassurance from you.

Enjoying Giving Head

I hate giving blow jobs as I always end up gagging. What am I doing wrong?
N in Cork

If you’re gagging, you’re probably trying to use "deep-throat" techniques. The majority of sensation is felt in the head of the penis, so that’s where you should concentrate your oral efforts. Let you hands do the rest. You need never gag again.